- 15:33: RT @rachelheldevans: No, Donald Trump, abortions do not happen at 9 months pregnant https://t.co/sGfE4jatlC
- 16:49: RT @LeonHWolf: How do you explain this gap in your resume? "I was in jail." Okay. Sure you weren't working for Trump's campaign? "Swear…
- 18:43: RT @kayaoakes: Nasty women, God edition: Mary Mary Magdalene Hildegard Julian of Norwich St Theresa of Avila St Catherine of Siena Dorothy…
- 00:11: RT @FrankBruni: Was late to this. So funny. https://t.co/RGwBsLxxnr
- 08:06: Dr. Faustus was a lousy negotiator. I got a much better deal for my soul, I tell you. Much better. #trumpbookreport
- 08:21: Mary, mother of God? Not my first choice. Look at that face. Can you imagine that, the mother of our Savior? Nasty woman. #TrumpReligion
- 08:22: RT @MaeSchaefer: I will build a big beautiful hell, way more than 9 circles, yuuge. Trump name will go on it. Mexico will pay. Dante, loser…
- 15:33: If a book deepens your appreciation of our shared humanity, then its creator has accomplished the work of God. https://t.co/jpBj93e9LY
- 20:02: Understanding one another's stories can bridge the divide that separates our warring factions . https://t.co/m461MDJfRW
- 21:00: Debate prep. https://t.co/XrhnxvpI9N
- 21:09: Trump's off to a good start. No sniffing, no threats of jail time. Of course he hasn't started talking yet.
- 21:25: RT @JessicaValenti: tfw you're listening to a man talk about abortion #debatenight https://t.co/dFcgn0W0Jq
- 21:36: RT @sadydoyle: PUTIN HAS OUTSMARTED HER EVERY STEP OF THE WAY. HE HAS GREAT ABS. HE'S HANDSOME AND NICE AND HE'S HELPING MY CAMPAI - OH.
- 21:41: RT @crampell: Trump's earlier comments on whether he met/had a relationship with Putin https://t.co/MmFwpDLXbq https://t.co/92YjUBd7CH
- 21:59: RT @PennyRed: Trump: ugly women lie about rape. Abortion should be illegal. Also! Nobody has more respect for women than I do. #debatenight
- 22:06: RT @realsesmith: Trump used $258,000 from his charity to settle legal issues. https://t.co/aRqB52Tc4P #debatenight
- 22:17: @LeonardPittsJr1 https://t.co/BL8iDgSDQm
- 20:23: RT @BenDWalsh: Term limits have the exact opposite of the intended effect: inexperienced lawmakers are more reliant on lobbyists and indust…
- 01:08: New blog entry, in which I discuss the transcendent qualities of "Fun Home." https://t.co/jpBj93e9LY
- 06:56: RT @james_ka_smith: Could anything be more dangerous for the vulnerable working class than blowing up the institutions of democracy? Trum…
- 07:07: Good literature, like all art, bridges what divides us, so we find our common humanity https://t.co/jpBj93e9LY
- 13:25: A good story like "Fun Home" can connect you with experiences and perspectives you'll never have on your own. https://t.co/jpBj93e9LY
Dreamed I was extremely angry at David Bowie because he threw my tortoise in the trash. I don't think he really would've done that, though.— Molly Manglewood (@Manglewood) October 19, 2016
.@Manglewood He would. David Bowie not only threw my tortoise in the trash, he once put my favorite Rottweiler in the garbage disposal.— (((David Learn))) (@marauder34) October 19, 2016
Like them, I enjoy the pleasures of a good night's sleep, keeping warm during the winter, a nice meal, the presence of loved ones, and the new "Luke Cage" series on Netflix. And let's not forget that I'm also a snazzy dresser. There is much that we share in common; that's why we're friends.
One thing I do not share with them, and never will: I'm not gay. I'm not attracted to other men, and never have been. When I've fallen in love, whether in my teens or in my twenties, my overriding concern has been a fear of rejection, not a fear of discovery. I've never needed to fear for my safety if strangers see me with my partner. No one has ever told me that I'm going to hell for wanting to be with the one I love.
And while adolescence was rough, people generally assumed that I was straight and eventually would find a nice girlfriend, and I did. I never experienced the disorientation that comes from realizing that such fundamental expectations are all wrong. I'm not gay, so all those things are outside my experience.
Thank God for literature. It has the power to close the distance.
A bad book can treat me to an adventure in feudal Japan where all the people talk, behave and interact like 21st-century Americans, right down to their moral sensibilities. An adequate book will at least try to explain feudal Japan and its customs, while a good book will present me with fully realized characters and a setting so that I gain a better understanding of life in feudal Japan.
A truly amazing book is one that not only will help me to understand feudal Japan and the people who lived there, it will give me a personal connection to the era. By the time I'm done reading, I'll have a hunger to know more, and I'll know whether I would be a samurai, a peasant, a ronin or a monk burning incense to the Buddha. Literature can make all these things real and accessible to me.
I can't overstate how important this is. If a book, a movie, a musical, a poem or a song deepens your appreciation of the humanity you share with someone else and it fires a new connection where none had existed, then the creator of that work has accomplished the work of God.
“Fun Home,” a coming-of-age autobiography by artist Alison Bechdel. Originally written in 2006, “Fun Home” depicts Bechdel's childhood growing up in the living quarters of a funeral home, her teen years, and her early adulthood at college and afterward. The book is an odyssey of discovery. Through her experiences, Bechdel comes to understand not only own identity but also that of her father, a distant and inscrutable figure throughout her childhood.
A little over a year-and-a-half ago, my daughter left a copy of “Fun Home” on the kitchen table. It's like she was trying to tell me something. Dad, look! A comic book without a single costumed hero or ridiculous supervillain in sight. You should check this out.
Not only did it avoid superheroes and their melodrama, "Fun Home" was a comic book with a complex plot and complicated characters. In only nine pages, I fell in love with the writing and kept reading until I had finished. As I recall, I didn't leave the bathroom for about two hours.
Not surprisingly, “Fun Home” was adapted for the stage. The show, which won both Tony and Obie awards, opened off-Broadway in 2013 with a script that weaves its way back and forth among the different periods of Bechdel's life, with a few surprises along the way.
Toward the end of the play, when Adult Alison is starting to truly understand her late father, she hears him ask her younger self to join him on a car ride and spend some time together. And then to her wonder, she realizes that Small Alison is no longer on stage; her late father is talking to her. I'm told that the ensuing song, “Telephone Wire,” is considered one of the most moving of the show.
That may be. I haven't listened to the entire cast album, and so I don't know the music particularly well. Still, the one song I do know well is one that affects me powerfully. It's “Ring of Keys.”
In this song the Bechdel character, Small Alison, is in a cafeteria with her father when she sees a masculine-looking woman enter. This stranger is wearing jeans and lace-up boots, instead of properly feminine clothes; and moves with confidence. Small Alison is enraptured with what she sees, and wonders why no one else in the cafeteria responds as she does to this unconventional woman.
“Ring of Keys” isn't a love song. It's a song of recognition. In seeing her, Small Alison for the first time sees something in herself that she had never been able to notice before, because it never occurred to her that it could be there. For the first time in her life, it hits her that she is not the prototypical girl of tea parties and fancy dresses. She's different. She's like this woman.
For all that I have in common with my gay friends, associates and colleagues, I'm not gay. A physical or romantic attraction to another man is something I've never known, which means that there are sizeable pieces of the gay experience that I'll never share.
I make what bridges I can. At times I've had a front-row seat to the misery they've endured when they've come out of the closet and been rejected, and I've invited them to come to my home and join my family. I've witnessed their hurt when lawmakers and Christians have proclaimed a moral right and obligation to deny them a place at the marriage table, and I've screamed like hell to fight for them.
But I've never understood how liberating it must be to have that moment of self-discovery when they discover the missing piece and unlock the secret of how they are different. That essential piece of the gay experience in America has always been foreign to me. It never even occurred to me.
“Ring of Keys” changes that. The song helps me to get it. I listen, and I'm able to perceive and to understand that aha! moment, and through that discovery, I enjoy our common humanity anew, through an experience I can't relate to. It's a wonderfully moving and deeply humbling encounter.
Just think how much of our conflict and division we could resolve, if only we made the effort to listen to one another, especially when we can't relate.
Copyright © 2016 by David Learn. Used with permission.